Marriage takes a lot of work. You and your spouse are going to have your ups and downs. One piece of advice is to not lose that physical touch. It will not only keep the intimacy in your marriage going, but also make you feel safe and trusted. Let’s have a look at a few types of touch that will keep your marriage alive and well.
Morning Cuddles Touch
There’s nothing like waking up beside your favorite person in the morning. This may sound a little cheesy, but it’s extremely important. It becomes easier to take each other for granted and overlook small things that can have benefits. Cuddling seems romantic during the beginning stages of your relationship. But after marriage, you may lose interest in it. These private moments can make your partner feel safe and secure. Snuggle with your partner whenever you get a chance.
Whether it’s a weekday morning and you need to go to work soon, or right before your children wake up. Sleep in for some time, even if you have to hit snooze on your alarm. Take a few minutes to enjoy each other’s warmth. These moments are actually the underrated ones and probably the best in any relationship. Small hugs can build intimacy. Even if you’re not a morning person, try sliding under those sheets in a cozy cuddle.
What better way to kick start your day! You also don’t have to be in bed to cuddle. It can be on the couch in the middle of the afternoon as well.
Marriage can sometimes feel dry. This is why a smooch every once in a while is good. It can be a kiss on the cheek, or one on the lips. All that matters is that it’s a kiss. A single kiss would be enough to trigger nerves and pump up that hormonal activity. Lips are one of the most sensitive organs of the body. This is scientifically backed. Research has found that kissing spiked up the happy hormone called dopamine. This gave most couples a feeling of pleasure and longing.
It also produced large amounts of another chemical called oxytocin in your blood. This created a feeling of bonding and contentment. Researchers have stated that this type of contact can translate into marital satisfaction. Plus it can reduce stress levels and lower cholesterol in the body. Neck kissing has got its own special place in a relationship, but once you’re married, it can get boring. There may be times where you don’t feel like looking at your partner, much less kissing.
But if you can do it, try. It’s a great way to release all your tension and gain respect for each other again. Kisses on the cheeks, lips, forehead, neck, hands, anywhere. If you think a single peck is enough, then that will have to do. Kiss whenever you can.
Hug And Greet Each other
What’s the first thing you do when seeing your partner after a long day’s work? Do you start venting about how terrible your boss is? Do you simply go down into the basement for some “me” time? Whichever it is, try greeting them with a hug first. At the beginning of relationships, couples are always so eager to jump into each other’s arms. Over time, you grow less excited for this.
A simple hug can make all the difference sometimes, especially when you’re not feeling your best. Hugs can increase your mood. It’s like you go from grumpy to happy in an instant. Show your partner that you’ve been anxiously waiting to see them the entire day. Your spouse is usually the first one you see when you get home. Ideally, you’ll hug them the second you walk through the door. The element of surprise also plays a role in hugging.
You can go behind your spouse’s back and give them a quick hug while they’re in between their daily chores. Be sure to welcome that hug without pushing your partner away. Before we move ahead, would you like to know more about hugging. Check the types of hugs, and what they say about your relationship.
Holding Hands Touch
This is one of the more straightforward ways of showing your partner you care for them. Everywhere we go, we see at least one partner holding hands. Hand holding is something we learn as little kids. It’s an ability we’re born with. So why do we do it less as we grow up? Older couples need to hold hands as much as they can. It’s never too late to take a walk around your neighborhood, or from your car to the grocery store, while holding hands. Walking hand in hand while drinking afternoon tea can help couples communicate on a deeper level.
If you feel like you and your spouse have been drifting apart lately, try to take a walk with them. This is a perfect time to hold hands and talk. You may even like to hold hands while cuddling. This creates a stronger bond.
Knee Or Foot Touches
Remember those funny games playing footsies when you first started dating? It was one of the first tell-tale signs that your partner liked you. There are many languages of love, physical touch being one of the most important. If you’re a little too conservative when in public, putting your arms around and resting your head on each other’s shoulders might be a little tricky. You can still show a public display of affection. Make sure you sit next to each other at the dinner table. While the entire family laughs and talks, you can carry on with your small game of footsie, or just touch knees secretly under the table. This is a fun, intimate moment that will bring you closer together.
Dance The Night Away
Remember the times you went to the club with your partner and partied all night? If you’re willing to go out and have fun, maybe try dancing! Dancing can really connect you with your partner, as well as ease any tension there may be between you two. After being married for many years, it may seem like the magic has disappeared. Boredom can be a marriage killer, and dancing is an activity that can revive it.
So what if you’re not a great dancer? Throw on some tunes and dance around while making dinner. It will certainly lighten the mood. It doesn’t require anything fancy. No dancing shoes or flashy outfits. You can do it in your pyjama bottoms for all we care. Dancing just for a few minutes will allow you to forget about all the responsibility on your shoulders. Just relax, hold each other and sway away to the music. Pour a glass of red wine to really get in the groove and chill. It’s like you’re falling in love all over again.
Personalized Spa Sessions Touch
Who doesn’t like a good back or foot rub after a hard day’s work? Be generous and volunteer to gently rub your spouse’s feet while they relax on the couch after dinner. Neck massages are so relaxing. Your partner will need one if they’ve been spending too much time at the office. Things like these can connect you again if you’ve been spending time apart. While this massage is happening, don’t be afraid to gaze into your partner’s eyes. Eye contact is a powerful gesture.
Partners who are close with each other often use this to communicate. If you stare at each other with affection, it can be just as effective as saying “I love you.” There’s also another terrific thing for the two of you to do. Have you ever shampooed your partner’s hair? It’s another soothing type of massage that can help your partner relax and blow off steam.