When it comes to dating, there’s nothing like the thrill of the chase. But at what point should you realize that your pursuit might be a wild goose chase? There are few feelings as painful as the crushing sense of rejection. When you realize that the woman of your dreams may not be that attracted to you. But you can’t force someone into liking you, no matter how hard you try. It’s always better to be realistic and know about where you stand in her life. There are certain signs that can help you identify if she’s likes you or not.
Girl likes you or not?
- Never texts you back instantly
- She isn’t honest with you
- Avoids making plans with you
- Keeps reinforcing that you’re just friends
- Avoids physical contact
- Talks a lot about her ex
- She doesn’t laugh at the jokes you crack
- Comes up with excuses to leave the conversation
- Doesn’t reveal details about herself
- Talks about other guys with you
- She doesn’t rave about you
- Never makes plans with you alone
- She sits far away from you
- Her smile isn’t genuine
- She doesn’t make much eye contact with you
She takes forever to text you back
So, you send her a text at noon and the hours go by. Suddenly, it’s 5:00, then 6:00, then midnight. Why hasn’t she looked at her phone in the last 12 hours? Trust us, she has. She’s just chosen not to text you back right away. It might even be a day or two until she responds. And when she does, it might just be something small like “Lol” , “Sure” or “Yup”. She isn’t interested in having a long text conversation, because well, she’s not interested in you.
She isn’t honest with you
If she isn’t straightforward about her availability, then that says a lot about her intentions. Women are just as busy as men are these days and it’s possible that she might have overcommitted herself when she accepted the date. If you find that she is giving you false information in the hopes you will continue to entertain the idea of ‘someday,’ then your time is likely best spent elsewhere.
She avoids making plans with you
Some women will be incredibly enthusiastic in text and over the phone, but when it comes down to making plans, she is less than committed. This is a true sign that she is not into you. People will make time for the priorities in their lives. If she is consistently unwilling to make plans that include you, then it is likely that you are not high on her list of priorities
She keeps reinforcing that you’re just friends
Another way a woman might signal that she’s not interested in dating you is by reinforcing the relationship is strictly platonic. If she’s constantly stressing that it’s so nice having you as a friend or introducing you as “my friend,” then she’s trying to tell you something. And that is, you are not her boyfriend and never will be. Although this can sting, be careful about how you respond to it. It’s important that you don’t throw a tantrum about being put in the “friend zone”: Friendship is, after all, a precious gift, and you should be grateful that she’s offering you that much. Insisting that she owes you anything more than friendship is pure entitlement, and will land you with no relationship at all.
She avoids physical contact
A key sign that two people are romantically involved is consensual, physical contact. This can look like resting hands on each other’s legs, grazing the backs of each other’s arms or even playful hitting. If your crush isn’t doing any of these things, and if her body language is stiff and unapproachable, then she’s probably showing you that she’s not interested. This is definitely an area where you don’t want to force things. Unwanted physical contact is wrong, invasive and potentially criminal – so leave the ball in her court on this one. If she wants to initiate physical contact she can, but if you’ve been seeing each other for a while and she’s not just being nervous or awkward, it’s probably a sign that she’s just not into you.
She talks a lot about her ex
We’ve all been there. A fresh breakup or a recent relationship that we can’t get over. It happens. She could go on and on talking about how she hates her ex or how she wants to get back with him. If that’s the case, it’s clear that she has not moved on. If you want, you can go in for a rebound, but then again, why cut yourself short? And if the other guy suddenly wants her back, she will immediately drop you for him. That’s never a good situation to be in.
She doesn’t laugh when you crack a joke
One of the most important aspects of flirting is being able to get someone to laugh. It means she’s comfortable and interested in what you have to say. However, if she’s stone-faced when you’re cracking jokes, there are two very important conclusions you can make: First, she doesn’t like your sense of humor and you’re unable to engage with her. Second, she doesn’t like you enough to even bother faking it. This is crucial because laughing at your jokes doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with whether she finds them funny or not. Rather, it can signal that she’s not interested in flirting and you haven’t maintained her interest.
She comes up with excuses to leave the conversation
Even if a woman has a good reason for excusing herself, it’s still an excuse. Two or more of these excuses can be a sign she’s not interested. For example, she may excuse herself to use the bathroom, begin talking to a friend or start looking at her phone to avoid continuing the conversation. In any case, if she does not quickly return her attention to you, it most likely means she’s not really interested.
She doesn’t reveal details about herself
A woman who likes you will be eager to share her life experiences with you. But when she holds back details about herself and gives you one-word answers to your questions, that is an ultra clear sign she’s not interested in you. She talks about other guys with you: If she’s asking about other guys and whether they are datable for her or not, chances are that she’s not interested in you. She’s basically sending you signals that she’s interested in someone else. Also, if she asks you for advice about other men that she’s dating, we’re sorry but that ship has already sailed.
She doesn’t rave about you to anyone
Usually if a woman likes you, they’ll at least tell someone or express some kind of interest towards you to another person. She’ll introduce you to her friends or family if you’re lucky. We do understand not every relationship is like that. But if she’s really interested in you, you gotta know at least one or two people in her life. If you don’t know any, that’s a major sign that she’s not interested in you and she doesn’t want you. Women usually tend to rave about the men that they like.
She never makes plans with you alone
Once you’re talking to a woman, this is the most common form of rejection. You will try to make plans and she won’t give you a solid “yes” or offer a time when she’s available. She’ll always say “we’ll see…” or that she’s not sure when she’s free next. With online dating, some women will keep saying, “I’d like to get to know you more first.” This can happen even after you’ve been chatting for weeks. That usually means she enjoys your attention but isn’t interested enough to actually meet up. If you’ve tried 2 or 3 times to get her out with no success, leave future interactions up to her. She clearly knows you want to hang out and she can reach out to you if she changes her mind.
She sits far away from you
If you’re out together at a bar or at home and she chooses to sit on a separate chair. When there is clearly room on the couch next to you, it’s a sign she could be avoiding intimate physical contact. Women try to stop intimacy from happening by keeping physical space from a man. Closeness is always a sign of romance. And you can clearly tell when two people are together because they are inside each other’s personal space.
Her smile isn’t genuine
We all smile out of politeness. You may smile at a stranger passing on the street, but that’s not a smile you would reserve for someone you’re into. Real smiles crinkle the skin on the outer edges of the eyes. When you see her, what kind of smile does she give you on average? Don’t focus on the one or two times she may have been bursting with excitement. And that got directed at you, or the one or two times she was having a rough day. An assessment of the average should be able to help you tell if she sees you as a bud or the guy for her.
She doesn’t make much eye contact with you
People convey their level of comfort and interest by how often they meet the eyes of the people they’re around. If you approach a woman and she answers you verbally. But intentionally avoids meeting your eye, this is the opposite of interest. She’s anti-you. If this is how you’re being treated, this isn’t an opportunity for you to convince her to feel differently about you. Give up, and move on.
While women tend to give signals when they don’t like you. They also have gestures that can indicate they DO like you. And they tend to be attracted to men who have certain qualities, too. 5 Surprising Qualities That Women Find Attractive in Men