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Best way to avoid fights with Girl Friend.

The best way to avoid fights with Girl Friend is to talk to her directly face to face rather than texting her or talking over voice call.

Prime uses of texting

Texts are great for certain things, such as getting a quick yes or no answer to a question or simply letting someone know you are running a few minutes late. They can also be helpful to see if someone is available to talk, but many teens can have text “conversations” for hours.

It is important to check the balance between the amount you are communicating with friends through text versus phone or face-to-face contact. Encourage yourself to do as much talking voice-to-voice to your friend as possible.

Text Messages Can Be Easily Misunderstood.

Example

Girl: Can u tell ur friend not to come 2nite?
Boyfriend: idk
Girl: I just want to see u
(No response)
Girl: r u mad at me?
Boyfriend: no
Girl: r u sure?

There was no response for several hours, despite the girl’s many attempts to text him. An hour later, she texted him that he could bring his friend if he wanted and she was sorry.

Finally, he texted her and wrote, “chill, what’s wrong?” It turned out he went out to dinner with his parents and didn’t know she was texting him. She made many assumptions based on his lack of response, all of which were incorrect.

Texting in modern age

Texting is a cultural phenomenon in our electronic age. Smartphones make it so easy to do that teens often send texts without thinking about it. One study even suggests that texting is so easy that 47 percent of the teens surveyed can do it with their eyes closed. That makes the act of text messaging very vulnerable to the impulsive nature of teenagers.

Impact

we have seen over and over how texting can cause conflicts between teens because full conversations are occurring through text messages. This is wrought with risks of misinterpretations, impulsive responses, and more brazen comments than if the conversation was happening in person.

It may begin as a seemingly innocent conversation, and then one comment gets misinterpreted. Instead of clarifying the comment, the other person impulsively reacts with a snarky response.

Because neither person is seeing the facial reactions (which may include hurt, anger, embarrassment, or sadness), they are bolder and less thoughtful with their response, which, in turn, results in another strong reaction, and emotions can escalate based on misunderstandings. Seemingly innocent comments can turn into conflicts and hurt feelings.

What to do?

It is important to check the balance between the amount you are communicating with friends through text versus phone or face-to-face contact. Encourage yourself to do as much talking face to face over voice-to-voice or texting to your friend as possible.